Anna Kendrick has spoken out about discovering her ex was cheating on her. On the most recent episode of Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert podcast, the 37-year-old actress revealed that she discovered a year-long text exchange between her unnamed ex and another woman while in a long-term relationship.
“I ended up finding out some capital T truth and was exposed to year-long text exchange and went, ‘Oh, I was right about everything. Oh, OK,’ “She stated. “It was far worse than I had anticipated.”
Finding the text reminded Kendrick of a previous conversation with her ex in couple’s therapy, during which he denied having any feelings for the woman in question.
“It was a passing crush, you’re so insecure, I never saw a relationship with this girl, I even told my best friend I never saw a relationship with this girl,” she recalled.
When she discovered the texts, however, it clarified things for Kendrick. According to Kendrick, one message contained her ex telling the woman, “I want to blow up my life for you after a week of f**king you. We’ll ride off into the sunset together if you say the word.”
“You said it, and I didn’t think you could lie to my face with such intensity and conviction,” she explained. “… When I confronted him about it, he said, ‘I have no idea what you’re talking about.’ Which, again, was kind of a relief, because you go — ‘Oh, you’re pathological. “It’s in black and white.”
Kendrick decided to send an email to her ex in addition to confronting her.
“I ended up emailing this young woman and saying, ‘I just think it’s fair that you know that I know,'” Kendrick recalled. I did not leave this on your doorstep. You made a mistake, but you’re only 25 years old. We’ve all done stupid things. I left it right on his doorstep.
That’s all I wanted you to know. I’m not sure why we’d ever be in the same room together, but if we were, I just wanted you to know. I wouldn’t want to talk to you if I were you, but if you ever want to talk, I’m more than willing.”
“To her credit, she said, ‘Yes, can I call you?'” We talked on the phone for about an hour, and all she said was, ‘I’m so embarrassed and so sorry… This was a mistake,’ she went on. “… To be honest, for about an hour, all she did was say, ‘I’m so sorry, I feel terrible, and yes, this happened.'”
The woman’s confirmation of what Kendrick already knew allowed her to move forward without questioning whether she was doing the right thing.
“It’s difficult to forgive myself because I should’ve just said, ‘Get the f**k out of my house,'” Kendrick said of her turbulent relationship with her ex. “But I think that I would’ve always wondered, ‘Was that fair? … ‘Was I being unreasonable?’ I wondered if I hadn’t come to this capital T truth.”
As a result, Kendrick is grateful for discovering the texts and having a conversation with the other woman.
“Even though I had seen it in black and white, it was infinitely more valuable to me, and hearing her say it finally landed in my body,” she explained. “… It seemed so magical to me after all that evidence cataloging I’d been doing… When he said, ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about,’ there was still a part of me that couldn’t believe I’d seen the proof. It was her saying it with compassion that made me think, ‘Oh, this is real.'”
“I hadn’t eaten anything in a week. I couldn’t fall asleep. I couldn’t eat anything. I had this conversation with this girl, and when we hung up, I thought to myself, ‘Oh, I need a plate of nachos.'” Kendrick went on. “‘You can grieve,’ my entire body said. You’re not insane. You are secure. You have the right to be sad. You are permitted to consume nachos. You are welcome to a glass of wine… It was as if my entire body received whatever it required. It at least put an end to the panicked state I’d been in for a year.”
